The Capacity to Choose

Change is not for everyone. We might hear in our own heads "it's a choice" that we keep choosing. So can't others?

It's truly not a choice for everyone. While there is technically always a choice, how we choose and what we choose depends on our capacity.

Many people in today's society are disconnected from their inner guidance. They are overwhelmed, stuck in old patterns, or have allowed things outside of their control to influence them. Sometimes, they are guided not by truth or love, but by temptation, guilt, shame, fear, or desire for approval. Those voices are just as real, but they lead us away from growth, not towards it. And if we do not recognize the difference of what is guiding us, we may never move towards the light.

In those moments, what we're really seeing is our sovereignty - the ability to choose from within. And society often encourages us to give it away. We're taught to hand our power to validation, approval, substances, status, or control. But when we outsource our sense of truth to things outside of ourselves, the inner voice becomes harder to hear.

A weak inner voice leaves us susceptible to more interference. Fear gets louder. Addictions become more seductive. Other people's opinions start to become our truth. Without sovereignty, we are far more easily influenced, controlled, or consumed by things that do not serve us.

Sovereignty isn't loud; it's quiet. And if we never learn to hear it and trust it, we will follow voices that are louder but not true.

Most people do have a sense of what is true light and love deep down, but not everyone knows how to listen to it. And some don't feel safe enough to follow it when given the choice. Their system overrides the feeling of choice and they revert to what they know. Choice requires recognition and a slow down first, then it requires the inner strength to go down a new path.

Some of us did not have the capacity either to start, so it can be harder to see. The difference is we are determined to refine it, daily.

By expecting others to make the best choice - one that's from love, integrity, and accountability - we assume that have the capacity for that. Choices like that require self-awareness, often deep discomfort - resisting instincts, temptation, calming big emotions, finding rational thinking and choosing to act from love.

To get to a place where we are truly able to make caring, safe, and aligned choices - especially when we haven't in the past - takes work. It's acknowledgement of self - both good and sin. It's breaking down beliefs and sitting in pain with the intent to release.

So much discomfort. It's messy. It's slow. It's repetitive beyond belief. And so much of it is outside of our control.

We can't fully understand why some awaken and others stay asleep. But we know it's not about worthiness. Some get the privilege to hear guidance and receive the right tools to break habits that lead them back to inner knowing. Others do not.

So while change may always appear to be a simple choice in the moment, many do not have the capacity for that change, nor do they want it. And when we forget that about humans, we suffer. We misplace our disappointment, and it discredits our work.

If you're doing this kind of work, you've fought hard to hear your own voice again - through the noise, fear, and the pull to stay asleep. There is something deeply holy in that.

It's not just effort. It's devotion. And it deserves reverence.

Not everyone will get here, unfortunately. Not everyone wants to.

And that's heartbreaking.

But it doesn't take aware from the depth of what you've chosen, whether or not it feels like a choice.

So may you hold gratitude - not just for where you are, but for the path you've walked to get here.

And may you leave space in your heart for those who may never.