Like A Glass of Cold Water On A Hot Day

Feels so refreshing to fully be in control and to stop blaming the world and people around me for how I feel.

I am in control of how I feel. Perhaps not all my feelings but at the minimum how I deal with my feelings.

We rarely realize as humans how much power we lose when we allow things outside of ourselves to dictate how we feel. We get caught in the story. The story becomes our facts. The feelings are real; the story is not.

Yes, circumstances do matter, but what happens when those circumstances are out of our control? How we feel, our reactions and actions shape how we experience life—and our perspective shapes our reactions.

To one person, something like rain may feel miserable because they simply don’t it, while another feels cozy and comforted because they find it soothing. The rain is technically the same for both people, but their perspectives are entirely different.

Question is, are we going to learn how to shift our perspectives to enjoy life more regardless of our circumstances?

Can we see things in new ways?

Can we recognize our own bias?

Can we dig in and see what we’re missing?

Can we appreciate what we have?

Can we hyper focus on what we’re grateful for to override our natural bias towards the negative?

Can we gain things even in times of hardship? I’m trying.

So someone liking the rain and someone not, isn’t simply “a difference in personality.” It’s a difference in perspective—and perspectives can change. We can change our experiences by changing our perspective. We can change our reactions by changing our perspectives.

Understanding that perspective is a choice and asking ourselves for more perspectives has the power to shift our minds, which has the power to change reactions, which has the power to change feelings, ultimately changing our entire lives.

I have been practicing telling myself in times of discomfort that this is a good thing. It happened to me because I have something to learn here. Accepting the discomfort and then ask what I can learn while trying to find ease in my body.

Now I naturally think, “God just gifted with me this challenge. What is it here to show me? What can I learn? What can I gain?”. I can’t express what a gift it is for me to have changed my own mind regardless of my circumstances.

I am reclaiming the power to choose how I feel, how I react, and how I move forward.